LET’S START WITH YOU
If you’ve been subjected to anger, criticism, domineering parents, trauma, or sexist discrimination at a young age this can stifle your confidence forever. Then later on, aggressive male-dominated work environments, abusive partners and ‘#metoo’ experiences reinforce the message. Maybe you had years of small put-downs, maybe one big traumatic incident – the effect is the same.
It’s like an iron fist crushing a flower. Instead of blossoming, that unique spark inside you shuts down.
The message life has given you is simple – you aren’t allowed to shine, flourish, and be yourself, and you aren’t allowed to be powerful. To be safe, you must be silent, invisible and perfect.
Your female power has been crushed – This is the FEMININE WOUND
You end up quiet, holding back instead of speaking up and staying in the background instead of putting yourself forward.
Often your life becomes plagued with anxiety, fears and insecurity. Whenever you try to speak up, stand out or express yourself, that sickening pang of fear comes up.
You know there’s no real danger, but your body thinks differently.
Maybe you over-compensate and push yourself harder and harder, but no matter what you achieve, you never feel good enough. Women like you are usually highly talented and intelligent, but you just don’t have the confidence to match your capabilities.
It’s a path that leads to burnout.
And meanwhile your career, relationships, health and abundance are being undermined.
You’re desperate for change, but it feels as if there’s something intrinsically wrong with you. You just can’t be confident and be yourself. It’s not possible. It’s not safe.
You aren’t alone…did you realise that men will happily put them forwards for a position when they are only 60% confident they can do the job, whereas women won’t consider stepping forward until they are 100% confident? It’s also been shown that we underestimate our abilities by 20% compared with men! It’s about time this changed! We are equally talented, competent and deserving, so let’s change things and level the playing field once and for all.
Would you like to know a secret?
“But that’s impossible!” I hear you say. “How can I change the way I feel about myself?”
Well, it has been impossible up until now, and here’s the reason why.
The experiences crushed your confidence were encoded into your mind, your body and your life by fear, during times when you were vulnerable and felt genuine danger. The fear response is instinctual. It’s survival. Fear goes beyond logic, beyond explanations, beyond simple healing downloads AND it locks you into the powerlessness of those experiences.
We need something revolutionary, powerful and game-changing.
Undoing this fear conditioning, recreating your energetic foundation and transforming your wounds to find freedom, voice and confidence isn’t something you can do by yourself. And it isn’t something that can be done quickly. If it were, you’d already be that confident women you yearn to be!
But you CAN achieve this with my help.
My name is Anne Whitehouse, and my mission is to help pioneering women transform the wounds, fear and conditioning of their past, so they can rekindle their inner brilliance, find their true power and unique confidence.
I’ve spent 20 years discovering how to transform my own feminine wounds, and seeking the key to turning fear into confidence.
I know how awful this is to live with, and I know it’s absolutely possible to free yourself.
With a 1st Class Honours Degree in Natural Sciences and PhD in Metallurgy and from Jesus College, Cambridge University, you’d think I’d be pretty confident with all those achievements. You couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, you’d be hard pressed to find a woman who was less confident in herself, her abilities and her value than I used to be.
Why? Because I’d had my feminine energy crushed over and over again.
As a little girl I was sensitive, creative, imaginative and intelligent. I loved my girlie things, fairy dresses, fantasy books. That was me. Eager, happy and ready to create lovely things in the world. So, what happened? It’s simple – I innocently went into the world with my soft sensitive energy and experienced what I call the ‘wounded male energy’.
I experienced anger, aggression, sexist put-downs and ridicule. I also experienced professional discrimination, and severe sexual violence. Each time I felt pushed down to a greater or lesser extent. But I was highly motivated to achieve and these things never stopped me. Instead I pulled myself up, determined to succeed, and carried on. I had no idea the wounds I was storing up for myself deep inside.
What I did know was that I felt less and less confident in myself. I struggled to speak up in even the most friendly of situations. I never felt good enough, despite my list of achievements. I ended up living my life with a constant pang of anxiety in my stomach, making each day an ordeal rather than an opportunity to live.
By this time, it was 1996, I was a University Lecturer in Engineering, and my scientific career was taking off. But the male-dominated environment of that engineering department was the last straw. It wasn’t that there was a problem with my colleagues themselves, it was simply a very masculine energy which was poisonous to me – very competitive, confrontational, aggressive, forceful. My male colleagues clearly thrived in that environment and but it crushed me. I couldn’t function there. I could do the job just fine, but I couldn’t be myself in that energy. I felt that it was literally attacking me every single day. What happened? All the stored stress, abuse and wounds that I’d been suppressing basically exploded out of me. I went into stress melt-down, burnout, illness and eventually it cost me my career and very nearly cost me my life.
Looking back I came to understand that the most traumatic and violent of my experiences had in fact conditioned me. Any situation which even felt vaguely similar triggered all the fear responses, and all my survival mechanisms. This had been going on for years. My survival mechanisms were the typical female wounds responses – disempowerment, perfectionism, holding myself back, never promoting myself, unable to speak up, and avoiding being visible. Pretty incapacitating for a lecturer!
Awareness is one thing, untangling the mess is quite another!
I embarked on a journey of healing, training and spiritual growth during which I trained in the best cutting edge healing modalities and emerged a much stronger woman, with my health and well-being much improved, and an expert in healing the subconscious mind. I also now had a mission – to free women from the chains that had undermined my life. I had no wish to go back to science, and felt more fulfilled than I ever had before, seeing my clients and students transform as they stepped into their power.
But I knew I hadn’t quite cracked things yet. I was still lacking confidence. Still struggling to speak up. Things were much better – yes – but the healing I had learnt wasn’t quite reaching what was needed.
It wasn’t until the tragic death of my daughter at the tender age of 7, that I made the biggest breakthroughs. The trauma that I, my family had suffered after finding her body wasn’t even touched by my existing techniques. So, in desperation I began to push the boundaries of quantum healing, and using myself as guinea pig, I started doing things that hadn’t been done before in the world of healing. What happened? I found new ways of working with trauma, fear and deep conditioning, new ways of shifting the body’s vibration and I not only freed myself of my post traumatic stress, but I found I’d cracked the confidence blocks too. And so was born the Feminine Confidence Technique™.
I found myself saying and doing things that were unthinkable to the old quiet Anne. It was like taking off a straitjacket – getting out of prison. Finally I was able to allow myself to be powerful, and start realising my true potential. It was like the breath of fresh air I’d been waiting for my whole life.
It’s been a long and painful journey, but I can honestly from the heart say this – No matter what you have been through, you can transform your past. It’s not about surviving, it’s about emerging like a phoenix, brighter, sparklier, more amazing and shining your true light. Not changing yourself to fit other people’s ideals, expectations or definitions of what a woman should be. The greater our challenges, the greater the scope and potential for us to be wonderful.
If you’re ready to transform your life, to take back your power, find your voice and step into your leadership, then I can help you. I know it’s possible because I’ve done it.
Anne’s Highest Level Transformation
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Are you ready to truly be the woman you were meant to be?
I’m now offering two exclusive one-to-one coaching and healing programmes for exceptional women who are ready to embrace their power, talent and potential – and break free of their past traumas, limitations and conditioning.
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Over the course of our 3 months together, we will dive deep into your fears, blocks, anxieties and past wounds, transforming disempowerment into wisdom, enabling you to catapult through what’s been holding you back, and create the life you really want.
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